Updated: Dec 19, 2020
"Many people think that it is the function of a spiritual teaching to provide answers to life’s biggest questions, but actually the opposite is true. The primary task of any good spiritual teaching is not to answer your questions, but to question your answers." -Adyashanti
Over the last few years, while working with different people I have found that asking questions has become one of the most important parts of my practice.
As I studied and collected information from different teachers, books and from my experiences, I wanted to share all my knowledge with everyone I came in contact with. I wanted them to see the truth and find understanding and peace through what I wanted to share. It didn't take long until I could feel that the answers that I had been trying to give were useless, unless those I wanted to help would reach these answers on their own.
So I started asking questions instead of giving answers. I started to question the thoughts and beliefs that were presented in order to create a space for a new understanding to enter. Allowing these questions to exist without our immediate need to give an answer or solution, allowed new answers to emerge in my own life as well.
Here are some of the questions I use most often:
Are you able to admit when you are suffering or when you have a problem and say it out loud to yourself or others? Do you want it to change? Do you believe change can happen?
Is there a reason that this may be happening? Do you believe there is a purpose even for pain?
What is the purpose? Why are you experiencing this problem or suffering in your life? What do you want? Where do you want to go from here? What is the intention or desire for an outcome in the situation you're in?
Let these questions echo, maybe going back sometimes to the answers that come and asking about them "is this true?"
Doing this will gradually create new openings for the growth and change you seek.